12/13: working at home
Today I had to put together a presentation for a workshop tomorrow. I wish now that I hadn't agreed to do it, but there's no changing that, so I had to keep pushing myself forward all day. But at least "pushing myself forward" was made more pleasant by the fact that I could do all the work at home, with Chris and Emma nearby, with creature comforts like juice and brownies readily available, and with the luxury of wearing super-comfortable (and not office-appropriate) clothes.
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All praise the ability to prepare from home!
As for that regret, I've experienced that so many times in the past few years. I finally printed out a note in 48 pt. font and tacked it above my desk at school: "Just Say No." This doesn't mean I say, "no" to everything; it simply reminds me to stop and think before replying, and it gives me courage to recognize it's okay to say "no" to some things. :) (That sounded more like a lecture to you than I intended...just wanted to pass on what's currently working for me.)
I hope all goes well! And when it is over, there will be Chris, Emma, brownies, juice, and comfy clothes for days and days and days!
Yes to saying no (judiciously)! Over the years, I have definitely gotten better at choosing when to say yes to extra obligations--when I can make an actual contribution, when it matters that it's me doing something rather than someone else, when it's something important to me. This workshop was an instance of something that made sense for me to do but was personally difficult, so I didn't know how to weigh that in the balance of decision-making.... I still don't know how to factor in something like personal comfort--how much should it matter? If I don't put myself outside my comfort zone, am I stopping myself from growing? But if I push myself outside of my comfort zone too much or at the wrong time, am I bullying myself? I need a decision tree/set of criteria for answering those questions!
So thoughtful, Rebecca. So true.
This made me think of a Big Bang Theory episode where Sheldon created a flow chart when trying to make new friends. He got caught in a feedback loop, which is a lot like what you're describing.
I hope going outside the zone in this case was a growing experience in the end.
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